For those who wish to attract their ex back...

[Mallica]

For those who wish to attract their ex back...this is what I have to say -

I understand your wish perfectly. However, whenever there is any counter-comment or negative feedback on this, the answer is a brisk I THOUGHT YOU COULD GET WHATEVER YOU WANT BY THE LOA.

We must keep in mind here that a person is not a THING. A relationship is an interplay of energy. For two people to be together in love, there have to be 2 things present -

1) A mutual harmony in vibration, and

2) Your own energy has to be in alignment, to be able to step into a relationship of pure love and joy without sabotaging. Many people are out of alignment, which causes fear, doubt and negative thinking when in a relationship, which in turn results in a break-up.

First and foremost, the loa is working all the time. It is your vibration of need and/or defeat that blocks successful manifestation of love in your life. Therefore, I find it neccessary to address this neediness and to create a basic stable vibration that brings things in balance. For this reason I advocate an approach of self-focus.

Secondly, the returning of an ex is not a goal - it can be a bye-product of you being in your optimum energy. This is about YOU, and your well-being.

Back to the topic of neediness - till you approach this issue out of need, you will keep being disappointed. Also, a needy person shows very little respect for the wish/ well-being of another person. Be careful that you don't find yourself in this category. The universe WILL NOT force the life-path of another person to bend to your will. If you think along those lines, it would a very simplistic understanding of the loa.

It is by optimum alignment of your own vibrational energy that you can INVITE (without words) and make it interesting for a person who has once loved you to reconsider participating in a harmonious interaction with you.

[Awesome]

I was waiting on you Mallica! Seems you beautiful insight and understanding is once again in DEMAND! Love ya hon!

[Mallica]

I love you too, Awesome! I am glad you are here. :-)

[Debbie Greene]

Attracting My Perfect Lover...


Q: I'm a little stuck so if you can help me get out of the stuckness that would be great, since I've been working with this material I've been trying to vibrate correctly to bring in "my lover". I've done the processes and visualized and pretended...

Abe: What are you really picky or something?

[Laughter]

Q: Very picky, yeah...wow you're good...yes...

Abe: Well the reason we ask this is because...

When the Universe yields to you the best thing that it can yield to you given your vibration, and then you say, "No Universe, this isn't right." You are defying the thing we just said you have to do. Remember we said, "You have to make peace with where you are." And, we wanted to begin with you because we think that this is the easiest way to hear this, maybe of all of the topics that we could talk about. So did you hear us say, "Make peace with where you are."?

So let's say the Universe has matched you up - not with your "ideal" of the perfect relationship - but with what you are right now - a vibrational match to. Now, isn't that always the way that it is? In other words, what you're offering vibrationally is all you have access to. So if the Universe keeps yielding to you something different than what you want, what does that mean? Does it mean the Universe is making a mistake? No. It means your vibration doesn't match your ideal, and the reason this keeps happening to you is because you keep giving more attention to what you're getting and not enough attention to what you're wanting. Now if you will try what we are going to give you here for, 2 weeks, this problem will be solved, so you're ready for this?

Q: Yeah, bring it on!

Abe: So the Universe yields to you someone that, as you check them out, is not the match to the list that you've made, but within that person - it is our promise to you, because we can feel the clarity of the vibration of you about that subject - you're about 85...86...87% in alignment with your ideal. So what the Universe is yielding to you are potential partners that are about 85 to 87% of what you want. But what's happening to you is, you're focusing upon the 13 to 15% of them that's wrong. And so as you focus upon the part of them that's wrong you hold that part active in your vibration, so the Universe keeps saying to you, "We're giving you ALL that you have access to, not ALL that you're asking for, but ALL that you're letting in right now". And the reason you're not letting more of it in, is because you're doing such a good job of observing what's coming in and not such a good job of remembering what you want to come in.

So all that you would have to do, is begin with the next person that you spend any time with, making a list of their positive aspects, practice it before you see them, practice it while you're seeing them, practice it after you've seen them. Activate within you that 85 to 87% that the Universe got just right, so that you are deactivating the part of it that isn't just right and in doing so you clean up your vibration a little bit. So the next one who comes is that much closer, and the next one who comes is that much closer. And to each of them, you don't leave them wounded as you cast them aside, instead, each of them - because you've done such a wonderful job of activating the very best that you see in them - you leave them in a vibrational place that they're gonna' turn around and be attracted right into an environment or a relationship with somebody else that's right there ready for who they are you see. Now we want to give you one more really important thing about this, we hear, we can feel that you're getting this - this is the next important thing...and we talked about this just a bit, briefly just now.

There is a tendency to feel different about creating the perfect relationship, than you do about creating the perfect 1-week vacation, because creating the perfect 1-week vacation - no matter how you got it - it'll be over in a week. But with relationships you tend to say, "I have to create this perfect relationship and it not only has to match everything that I now want, but since it's one of those "death do us part things"...

[Laughter and pause.]

BIG mistake - then, I've got to figure out from where I am now, with only as much experience as I've lived so far - I've got to figure out everything that I will ever, ever want and everything that I will ever, ever Be forever more. And we say, "Give it up."

We think the perfect marriage vows would go something like,
"I like you pretty good, let's see how it goes."

[Applause]

So take the pressure off yourself by acknowledging that you are an evolving being and of course you want to factor in to your intentions, "I want a partner who's evolving too, and a partner who has the potential, a partner who, at the core is much in vibrational resonance with me, a partner who has discovered the connection with source and all of that, in other words there are all kinds of things you can intend. But please make a decision that you're just going to be flexible and take that pressure off that says, "This has got to be forever more." Just have a relationship 1-week vacation at a time.

[Cheering]

And before you know it, you will have attracted into your experience someone that you'll want to check the box, "I want to stay on board for another week."

[Massive applause and cheering.]

And then you just keep renewing those vows,

"Wanna' go 'round again?"

"Yeah, why not!?"

Q: Which answers the next part of the question which is, Why have I never been able to keep anybody past 3 months?" And it's usually them telling me, "see ya' later", I've attracted in this great person and then...

Abe: But if you were focused upon the great aspects of that person, so that you were activating the best of them, and the best of them was meeting the best of you, they would never want to leave. What makes people want to leave is your wanting to get it so right that you get fixated on the parts that aren't good and then you activate the parts of them that you don't like that they don't like either. And then they find themselves just not feeling good about life when they're with you, not because there is not the potential for it, but because you have highlighted something in them that they thought they'd left behind, or that they want to leave behind you see.

There are no two perfect people who are going to come together and show each other only the perfect things, that doesn't exist anywhere in the Universe. What there exists are multi-faceted beings who have many potential activation points, and the relationship that ensues between them depends upon what each of them decides to be activated. What goes wrong with most relationships is, this one gives that one complete responsibility for what's activated over here...

"You don't bring me flowers anymore, you don't love me the way you used to". And this one, usually, is giving this one complete responsibility for how this one feels. When you decide that you're responsible about how you feel, now, most of that trouble dissolves in the ethers immediately because, now you have control of the way you feel, and when you have control of the way you feel, then you activate the very best in the other.

Now we're going to give you something here that you don't want to hear, but we REALLY want you to hear it anyway...wait, that defies law...

[Laughter]

We're going to give you something that you really want to hear, that you're not ready to hear...wait, that's a waste of time...

[More laughter]

Q: But I can hear it later on the CD...

Abe: Well, we're going to tell you something that we know...

[Large laughter and cheering.]

[Long pause...]

Abe: Oh never mind...

Q: No, give it to me!!!

Abe: There are thousands of potential partners for you who would be equal in the satisfaction value. You're not looking for the one and only. And where the perfect partner lies is in your vibrational range between where you are and where you want to be on the subject, in other words, you've got to create the perfect partner in you and the Universe will match it.

So what we're really saying is,

"Pick somebody, and make peace with it, and line up with it and live happily ever after". And don't look back and second guess it, don't say,

"Well...I've noticed something that I don't like". Instead say,

"I've noticed all these things that I do like, and as I fixate on them the best of me comes out and when the best of me comes out the best of you comes out and when the best of us are here we're having a really good time. And who cares who else could have been in the party, who cares? It's sort of like somebody going to a fabulous restaurant and having a delicious meal and then, wishing they were at some other restaurant having some other delicious meal and we say,

"If you're having a delicious meal what difference does it make how many other delicious meals are there if you are having a delicious meal", you see.

And so, there's something that's sort of stuck in the craw of so many of you that says, "I've got to find the best one and only partner", and we say, "find somebody and make them the best partner by activating the best part of them in you."

Q: Thank You.

Abe: Yes indeed.


Abraham-Hicks

[katy]

mallica,i am a big fan of you,i really am.honestly,ever since me and this guy broke up and i have been reading your discussions and trying to find a way to ask you about my problem,and what you know,the universe answered me finally.now i will try to keep it as short as i can.
after reading the secret,i wrote a list of all the things i would like for my soulmate to have,a few months later,there he was.he simply fits my list.at first everything was great,but about two months later,i started thinking negative thoughts,saying to myself he doesnt like me anymore and stuff like that,and guess what,he told me then that he didnt feel the same way about me anymore.but we continued anyway together being a little more than friends,you know.and that went on for a few more months.now,he is going back to his country,and he said he might return here in a few months and that when he does he will call me,but when i sent him my email id,he didnt give me his back.
i know from the way he treats me and acts around me how much he loves me,and i really love him too.and ever since i stopped seeing him,and i have been seeing all these weird signs around me.like,everywhere i turn i see something about italy(his country),read something about italy,hear something about italy.sometimes i will be thinking of him and suddenly i hear someone's mobile ringing the same ringtone that he has,and all these kind of things.
now,do you think i can have him agin in my life?if so,how can i attract him back?

[Mallica]

Katy -

This is such a classic case! Many girls/women experience this. They attract their dream-lover by the loa, of course, and then their negative vibrations of not deserving ruin everything. It is exactly this group that I wrote my old post for (Getting your ex-lover back). Follow the 7 steps, and one more additional one - Date other guys! :-)

Since this guy is from another country, DO NOT put your life on hold for him. In fact, never put your life on hold for anyone, at any time.

As for signs - don't let them affect you. The future is unwritten, for all of us.

[katy]

ok.but do you think i should wait for a few more weeks before i start following your steps(to get rid of all the negative and needy energy that i am feeling now)?or should i start right away?
also,would it help to write in a piece of paper something like this:me and ........ got back together,and we are now very happy,i am so grateful and thankful for having him etc.
i just want to do it right

[David]

I think you need to work on your negative energy and negative feelings.

If there are signs you should be with him, I think you should pursue it. Think about what your future could be like and how much happier you would be if you are together and in good spirits with one another. You have to remember that part of being in love is when you're apart from the person, because you don't have them that can make you feel bad and not confuse that with feeling negative thoughts about yourself.

[katy]

mallica,i am a big fan of you,i really am.honestly,ever since me and this guy broke up and i have been reading your discussions and trying to find a way to ask you about my problem,and what you know,the universe answered me finally.now i will try to keep it as short as i can.
after reading the secret,i wrote a list of all the things i would like for my soulmate to have,a few months later,there he was.he simply fits my list.at first everything was great,but about two months later,i started thinking negative thoughts,saying to myself he doesnt like me anymore and stuff like that,and guess what,he told me then that he didnt feel the same way about me anymore.but we continued anyway together being a little more than friends,you know.and that went on for a few more months.now,he is going back to his country,and he said he might return here in a few months and that when he does he will call me,but when i sent him my email id,he didnt give me his back.
i know from the way he treats me and acts around me how much he loves me,and i really love him too.and ever since i stopped seeing him,and i have been seeing all these weird signs around me.like,everywhere i turn i see something about italy(his country),read something about italy,hear something about italy.sometimes i will be thinking of him and suddenly i hear someone's mobile ringing the same ringtone that he has,and all these kind of things.
now,do you think i can have him agin in my life?if so,how can i attract him back?

[Lola]

Hi jalitw! Hope you are doing great!

[Mallica]

just another light in the world -

It is nice to see you around! Hope you're doing fine.

[Mallica]

katy -

I think you should start right away!

Your other question -
Would it help to write in a piece of paper something like this:me and ........ got back together,and we are now very happy,i am so grateful and thankful for having him etc.

A. There is no need to write down anything. As for being grateful - Gratefulness is a good thing in general, but in this case, what are you being grateful and thankful for? It is HE who has to start becoming more grateful and thankful.

Your last sentence was - I want to do it right. If you really want to do this right, start focussing on your life - your health, your happiness and your success (academic or financial, depending on the phase you are in at the moment).

[hope]

This is a good post Mallica. I think you are right and there is a big difference between "wanting" a certain someone to come back into our lives and "needing" them to. personnally i "want" a certain someone to come back into my life, but i dont "need" them to. my happiness does not depend on him becoming part of my life again. we are the only ones responsible for our own happiness. we can't put that on someone else.