Nice to be here!
We learned a long time ago from various sources that when you feel negative emotion, there is an outward cause that needs to be identified and fixed. Sometimes it was a person, sometimes a situation, sometimes a material object, but always we looked for how to change things outwardly to make it right.
Hi, everyone! Today they're putting on a gone-away performance for my dad, otherwise known as a funeral. Andries and I are enjoying the ability to be around people who think my dad was his body and are missing it without losing our sense of who we are or what we know.
Thank you to everyone in our lives, at all levels of interaction! I especially appreciate the contrast and new conclusions that I've experienced in the last month. The gifts are enormous, almost too many to name. And I have a new perspective on death, having lived through the relatively slow decline of my father. I am so grateful to him and my mother and sisters and especially Andries and the girls for all the interesting nuances of interaction that… Continue
In reading Jayme's Appreciating Knees blog, I realized how beneficial it is to write your best thoughts about a subject and then bit by bit see if you can make it better, easier, funner, lighter, or more loving.
My sister brought Mom and Dad's dogs up to the hospice, thinking that they would provide comfort and compassion to my dad, who is in the process of Transition. They were all amazed when the dogs would not even willingly get near my dad's body, and showed no recognition of him at all. What wonderful confirmation that he's already gone, even though his body is still breathing. This reinforced all his communication with me that he's already feeling great… Continue